Thursday, May 14, 2009

Lapdances and Orgasms

Hey everyone! First of all, thanks for all the nice/concerned e-mails regarding my last post. In case I didn't write you back, and for those of you who didn't write in the first place, everything worked out for the best. I'm free and in no danger of being sent to the loony-hospital again, plus Beth has stopped her little quest to ruin my life. She sort of had to since (thanks to the advice of one of my friends from this site) I got a personal protection order against her. Yay law! :P

Also, I'm feeling very good lately. I started running again, and for the past few weeks I've been running about ninety minutes a day. I've lost four pounds so far, which wasn't exactly my intent, but still it's always nice to see on the scale! More important is the fact that both my ass and breasts are looking firmer than they have in a while. Again, this wasn't the goal: I only started running again because the weather suddenly got really nice and I missed being outdoors. Now, I'm hooked! I can't believe I didn't discover how awesome a good jog is years ago. Shrugs... 

So anyway, the reason I'm posting this morning is to ask a question: is it just a local phenomenon, or have handjobs and blowjobs at stripclubs become the norm nationwide?

Let me explain. Ever since I've been dancing, I've known that orgasms in the VIP room (aka "champaign room") are just part of the job. In fact, whenever a new dancer asks for advice I tell her that her goal while giving lapdances should be to get the guy off. It doesn't usually happen, of course-- most guys get hard as a rock from a good dance/grinding-session, but are unable to climax through such maneuvers. Still, my goal as a dancer is to get them off because by attempting to do so they're much more likely to continue asking for dances. A lame no-contact dance may result in just one $20 song while a full ass/crotch grind could result in eight or nine songs. You do the math!

Anyway, yeah, so that's always been the norm. You try your hardest, and sometimes they cum. Usually they're embarrassed if they do, which has never made sense to me. I mean, sometimes I get off from such dances, too! It's just how it is, something you can't really control. I guess guys get embarrassed for cumming in their pants, but whatever.

Here's the thing, though. Ever since I've been dancing, I've known that some girls are willing to do a lot more than just a simple dance to get a guy off. Like, they'll offer to jerk the customer off in exchange for a promise of a certain number of dances. That's always code, btw: the dancer says, "Stay for six dances and I'll stroke you off" means "Pay me $120 and I'll give you a handjob". Some dancers even offer blowjobs, and occaissionaly out-and-out sex for larger fees. This is just the reality of the job, a job that while I obviously don't look down on at all does manage to attract some really... uhm, let's just say, depraved girls. That's life.

It's also always very rare, until recently. Official policy at the club I've been working at now for more than two years is that lapdances are to involve little physical contact, and absolutely no direct contact. It used to be that the club would dismiss dancers caught breaking this rule. The bouncers in the VIP room would sometimes even interrupt such acts, kicking out both the dancer and the customer. The reason? Liquour license. The club couldn't afford to risk losing it by contracting with dancers (remember, we're not employees; we're independent contractors) who prostitute themselves.

In the past I've even gotten several girls dismissed by ratting them out. Why? Because it's not fair! I mean, I'm going to lose customers if the ones I'm dancing for notice that some other girl is going down on her client. He's going to wonder why he's paying me the same amount the guy across from us is paying while, but he's only receiving a grind/dance. Heck, I've even had customers tell me they didn't want anymore dances, only to later see them receiving more dances from the slutty/prostitute girl in question.

Lately, things have changed. Handjobs and even blowjobs are no longer the exception, they're basically the rule. Over the last few months I've learned that unless I want each dance to only last one song I have to at least hint I'll do more than just grind. Also, to actually get a bunch of dances I have to promise handjobs. And I do them, too.

Which, by the way, isn't as humiliating/trashy as it sounds. All I do is unzip the guy's fly, pull his cock out, and jerk him off. In some ways it's actually a lot easier than doing a full lapdance, and it definitely pays more. Lol, maybe it's been too long since I've had a regular boyfriend or something, but jerking off a guy I'm straddling usually gets me off, too. Yes, I let them touch me, that's sort of the unspoken rule (not every guy does, though, which is sort of weird/awkward).

So why have things at the club changed so drastically? Part of the explanation lies, I think, in what the club's manager told me the last time I complained a girl was giving BJ's in the VIP room. This was about three months ago or so, and I hadn't started joining the new trend yet. He said, "Shannon, look. She's willing to do it and the cops aren't raiding anymore. I can't fire every girl who does that in an environment like this, or you'll be the only dancer I have left."

Key point: the cops aren't raiding anymore!

The county sheriffs have raided us before, in the past. I've been through two of them at this club, and two more at the other club I worked at (the one I started at). Basically they send in undercover cops who basically hint during a lapdance that they want more than just a dance. Thankfully, I've never agreed. I always just said what I usually say, "Aww, sorry honey! We can still have fun, right?". Not all girls I've worked with have done the same, though. They've suggested that a payment of, say, $150 would get them a blowjob. Once the money exchanges hands, the guy pulls out his badge and the whole club ends up being shutdown (not literally, but who wants to go to a stripclub whose parking lot has cop cars in it? Business basically dies for the night). 

My manager was right, though. That just doesn't happen anymore. There hasn't been a raid in at least a year. Now new dancers, especially, are offering to do more than just simple lapdances because they have no reason to think there will be consequences. That's forcing me, a veteran, to do more, too. 

So is this just a local thing, or is this happening nationwide? Is it the newly elected sherriff's fault for not running sting operations, or is prostitution being accepted all over all of a sudden?

One last thing before I end this rather long post. Years ago, when I was still in college, I worked with a woman I'll call Samantha who was a total fucking bitch. She was older than me, though not by a lot, and I think she resented the fact that I was younger and in better shape than her. The men in the office we worked in took an immediate liking to me, and I think she hated that. Anyway, she always treated me like dirt. When someone stole some money out of the petty cash once (I think I blogged about this back then, but I might be wrong!) she not only blamed me, she made it her personal mission in life to get me fired for it. I was innocent by the way. I swear!

Anyway, you can see why I wouldn't much care for this person. And I've had absolutely no contact with her since I left that company. In fact, I'd barely thought about her in years. Then, about a week ago, one of the people who also worked at that office, who I'm still (sort of) friends with, sent me an e-mail about her. It read, in part:

"Not sure you're gonna wanna see this but I thought it was funny at least. [NAME REMOVED BY ME!] forwarded me this link. It's a NSFW video of that bitch we used to work with at [COMPANY NAME REMOVED BY ME!]. Serious can you believe this? Of all people, who knew?"

Here's the video my friend sent me. And seriously, this is definitely my old co-worker, the uptight bitch who made my life hell!!!





Anyway, I thought it was funny. Seeing her, after all these years, getting spanked and treated like shit by some guy who supposedly doesn't know her. What I'd like to know is whether or not she's been in more movies? I mean, has she become a professional actress, or was this something she did just the one time? Shrugs... if any of you out there have any info on that, I'd definitely appreciate hearing about it!

Also... felt kind of weird fingering myself while watching my old nemesis. Sigh. I so, so need to find a man.

Later!

-shannon-
p.s. The video says her name is "Cate"... that's not her real name!

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