Flower
Written: November 29, 2002
I have a very close friend who graciously gives me her female perspective on a lot of things, one of which is what it is like to be a female. Sometimes after she's proofed something I've written from the female point of view, she's told me bluntly that I got it wrong - that I sounded like a guy writing about a character that was essentially a male in a female body. As the great Beavis once said, "The first thing I would do if I were a chick would be to play with myself." But that's besides the point. Women don't think like men. Women don't emote like men. And women don't have orgasms like men.
Flower is all about the difficulty (some) women have getting to that cliff that juts out over the abyss of wonderful pleasure. Given enough time and not-so-much alcohol, all guys will get to that cliff and sail right over. But women have a harder time of it. Sometimes the path to the cliff is crooked and leads elsewhere (I could say the Valley of Frustration but I think I'm already pushing it with the cliff analogy). Sometimes the cliff is there and the poor lady dangles from it - hoping beyond hope that something will push them over. Or, in the analogy of Flower, that the brilliant and wonderful Rose will finally drop its petals.
Now, I've heard of the female orgasm described as a flowering rose before. Being a guy, whose orgasms are more like explosions of molten lead followed by the immediate urge to sleep, I can't relate. But if I were to adopt the rose thing and change it to something more my liking, dropping petals sounded better. Probably still male, because once the petals are laying there on the ground, glue or staples aren't going to get them back on. And once a guy does the spastic thing and flops over like a mating rabbit, he's done for a while too. So, think of flower as the male-ification of the female orgasm - elusive, powerful, and damned hard to generate.
Toran